Recently there have been many unexpected deaths among celebrities as well as every day citizens. I talked about this in my last post. But with these deaths have come some controversy. It has just been confirmed that Steve McNair's death has been ruled a homicide-suicide. This situation is tragic for everyone involved. It is tragic for Steve McNair's family because they had little to no knowledge of the situation and for the young woman's family. She was obviously distraught to take these type of actions.
What bothers me the most about what has transpired is everyone who is quick to make judgments about both of these individuals. I've heard that he was a "dog" and he got everything that he deserved. I've heard that she was "crazy and confused" to think that he would leave his wife for her. People from facebook to twitter have given their two cents about this situation; mainly to say that this is something that they would "never" do. Mainly to say that they are above this type of behavior and anyone who does participate in this type of behavior is "evil". These statements have really bothered me.
These statements have bothered me because I have learned through life experience to "never" say "never". Especially when you discuss matters of the heart. I once had a friend tell me that you can control who you fall in love with. I argued her up and down, but she didn't change her mind. I stopped trying.
I am not free from sin. I have done my share of things that may be wrong to others. But with this I have learned that I am not living for other people. I can't sit and judge Steve McNair for his decisions that he made. All I can do is pray for his family that they find the strength to recover from this tragedy. The same for the young woman's family. I feel this way for anyone who feels like their life is not worth living anymore.
We have to be careful when we stand and begin to pass judgment on people. As humans, sometimes we tend to believe that being in Christ gives us the right to judge others and their actions as if what we do is Christlike all the time. I guarantee that this is not the case.
I stand quiet when I hear these comments about McNair and his credibility as a father being questioned because I don't want to argue with people. I know that the minute I begin to speak and give my opinion people will begin to pass judgment on me. But I am grown enough to also understand that others judgments are not what count in the end. In the famous words of my buddy "fuck 'em". If you hear me passing judgment on someone please call me on it. This is not the way I want to live my life.
Nae, it's really easy for people to cast stones and not look at their own lives before passing judgement on others.
ReplyDeleteI suppose it's human nature to see a thing and to try to react on it, but just because we have a natual inclilnation towards doing a thing doesn't make it right.
I hear the comments and see the tweets, fb status updates, and blog posts about it too and it makes me sad. Those kids lost their father because of a bad choice that he ( and the young woman he was with ) made. The folks passing judgement would do well to consider that fact as well.